A few years ago if you’d asked your parents if they had heard of the styles involved in parenting, you were in for a round of mockery and embarrassment. The situation isn’t quite the same today. Our understanding of the parent-child relationship has evolved, but there still is lot of confusion as to what type of parent one must be.
Do I have to be hard on my kid all the time? Do I let my kid be independent and make his own choices? Do I keep boundaries and check on them regularly?
Comprehending child behaviour seems to be a complex task and parents of the 21st century are not equipped to handle, let alone raise kids.
To make it a little simpler for you, here are four parenting styles you can follow to get the best out of both your kid and you.
● They use a strict discipline style with little negotiation possible. Punishment is common.
● Communication is mostly one way: from parent to child. Rules usually are not explained.
● Parents with this style are typically less nurturing.
● Expectations are high with limited flexibility.
● Their discipline style is the opposite of strict. They have limited or no rules and mostly let children figure problems out on their own.
● Communication is open but these parents let children decide for themselves rather than giving direction.
● Parents in this category tend to be warm and nurturing.
● Expectations are typically minimal or not set by these parents.
● No particular discipline style is utilized. An uninvolved parent lets a child mostly do what he wants, probably out of a lack of information or caring.
● Communication is limited.
● This group of parents offers little nurturing.
● There are few or no expectations of children.
● Disciplinary rules are clear and the reasons behind them are explained.
● Communication is frequent and appropriate to the child’s level of understanding.
● Authoritative parents are nurturing.
● Expectations and goals are high but stated clearly. Children may have input into goals.
What sort of parent are you?
Though these styles seem unique and specific, parents these days rarely stick to one style. It's generally a combination of two styles or more. This finally depends on personal preference, your child’s behavioral patterns, his social circle and the environment which he grows in.
So don’t worry if you don’t know your style or are afraid you’re doing it wrong. Parenting is not a certificate course that once you complete, you’re Pro! It’s a process of learning, growing and accompanying your child in his path to success.